The Night I Learned About Self-Respect
I heard that the strongest person is the one who can meet his enemies with a smile on his face, well that’s not the case for some people or at least me. I don’t have that enemies (who want to kill you), I don’t have that rivals (who want to beat you) but I have some difficult connection with some people, who just hate me for some reasons or sometimes for no reason, its September 4, 2017 and the reason why I am writing this is very simple I had a fight with my friend few day ago and then I find myself thinking about meeting him and say sorry (even the fight was begin because of him it was his fault), yesterday night I was thinking about self-respect suddenly some noisy angry and sad words came from the bottom of my heart and it resonate and buzzed in my head, “Oh man, what do you think of yourself why don’t you care for yourself, are you so damn afraid of losing someone who don’t even respect you, and your values. I thought for the whole night about that fact, Am I so afraid of losing a false friend? Do I lost the way to get self-respect? Do I became that much weaker? Then the inner demon inside me wake up my mind was howling like a wolf in the night. It wanted to hunt like a hungry shark who is waiting for his prey. My mind flows like an array of speedy electrons in the wire. And suddenly it stopped. After few minutes I started thinking about self-respect. Like what is self-respect? Why is it too necessary? What is the connection of self-respect in friendship? Then I find all the answers.
As we know that respect is one of the most important
qualities in your relationship with anyone, and there is no exception when it
comes to your relationship with yourself. Self-respect encompasses a multitude
of ideals, but it comes down to being the kind of person you are satisfied with
showing the world and being someone that you and the people you care about are
proud of. Self-respect is about having a sense of honor and dignity about
yourself, your choices, and your life. It is about treating others well and
knowing that by doing so, others will treat you well in return. Lastly,
self-respect is knowing that not everyone will treat you well and choosing to
respect everyone nonetheless, but still knowing that you deserve to be
surrounded by great people. Having respect for yourself is vital in maintaining
a positive self-image by allowing yourself to feel confident in who you are and
content with the person you are becoming.
Self-respect is about having the courage to stand up for
yourself when you are being treated in a manner that is less than what you
deserve. It is about knowing your worth and having the ability to adjust your
life and remove people from it if they are treating you poorly. If you have
respect for yourself, you will naturally demand respect from others without
having to do much of anything. People who have self-respect treat everyone else
with respect, but acknowledge that not everyone else will do the same. Rather
than stooping to their level and disrespecting them, you should simply not
interact with them because you should respect yourself enough to know that they
are a waste of your time that could be spent on better people.
Self-respect is about being the kind of person that you are
proud of and the kind of person that pleases the people you care about. If you
reflect on your life and the things you have done and feel a strong sense of
dignity, you likely possess a great deal of self-respect. The ability to have
pride in yourself is the paramount aspect of self-respect. If you are not proud
of who you are or what you’ve done in your life, then you could be selling
yourself short or compromising your values. If your friends, family, and
mentors are proud of you and respect you, that’s a great indicator that you are
respecting yourself because people you know will view you as dignified.
Respecting yourself is not limited to how you feel about yourself. Just as
other people are valuable assets to your life, their opinions of you can be
just as valuable as your own. If people who have your best interests at heart
don’t see that you are fulfilling your potential to be a great person and make
good decisions, then it may be necessary to adjust your life choices. That does
not necessarily mean that you need to turn your life around just because a
friend or family member disapproves. However, if several people who care about
you are not proud of you or your actions, you should take their opinions into
consideration and decide whether or not they are correct. Self-respect is about
making the decisions that make yourself feel a sense of pride and worth, but it
involves being the kind of person others can be proud of, too. If you respect
yourself enough, you will respect the people who care about you and be humble
enough to realize that they want what’s best for you and may have valuable
advice to give.
Ultimately, if you are confident in yourself and proud of
who you are, you are respecting yourself by being the person you wish to show
the world. Treat others with the same respect you are giving to yourself, and
most people will treat you well in return. Have enough respect for others to
never treat people poorly, but have enough respect for yourself to know that
you deserve to be surrounded by good people. Self-respect is the basis of a
good relationship with yourself and eventually others, so it is imperative to
build a strong foundation capable of withstanding anything.
